This book is very insightful however, you do need to be ready to read things that are potentially difficult regarding yourself or your partner. This book isn't a magic wand that will solve all of your problems it is more of a resource that could help you identify certain behaviours (again in yourself or your partner) and why they are there. It is then for you to decide what you do with that information. It doesn't give "help" as such but does have examples of situations being handled in unhelpful manners and then advises as to how the situation could have been handled in a more constructive manner as well as examples of couples handling situations very well. The interactive sections are amusing and help you identify current behaviours in yourself and your partner and allow you to make plans (if you wish) as to how you can handle things moving forward. I disagree that “anxious” types are glorified however, there is more literature on this type than the other two which are secure and avoidant. I would guess that this is because "secures" don't need much help regarding this particular theory (this doesn’t mean that they have perfect relationships just that their attachment style isn’t the problem). The “avoidant” type I would argue is less complex in the sense that it mainly comprises of one behavioural trait that is reoccurring where as with "anxious" types there are many common behavioural traits and each of these is worked through in turn. I do think that you have to be in a calm state of mind to read this book. Some people are saying things that I didn’t perceive at all and I would hypothesise that they have recently been through a break up or something similar and are finding that the book is telling them that it was their fault and they’re a bad person. I found the book to be quite balanced. The only exception is that maybe "avoidants" are slightly villainised. This book is about how to create long-lasting and monogamous relationships so if that’s not your thing than this book is probably of little interest to you. There is a total lack of examples with homosexual couples which I found to be an oversight but as far as I can see the theories can be applied just the same. For people who are looking for lightbulb moments then maybe it is true that this book isn’t for you. It’s more about understanding where you fit into the categories than anything else. As with anything… take it with a pinch of salt!

This was not the usual type of book I would have read, but it was recommended to read it from the professional development perspective. The book focuses on three main attachment types; secure, anxious and avoidant, and applies these mainly to romantic-style relationships. However, those same attachment styles can be applied to any connection with a little creative licence and internal thought process. Be it business or casual interactions. An easy read and one which most people can take something useful from.